Do you believe there’s nothing special about you? That you’re just a regular person trying to get by in life? Would you believe me if I told you that you weren’t ordinary? That as God’s daughter, you receive a royal identity? 


You may have heard people mention to “find your identity in Christ,” but maybe you don’t even know what that means. Maybe you have no idea how to live it out because when you look in the mirror, the last thing you see is a queen. The last thing you feel is royal.


You feel broken and rejected. You feel hurt and confused. You feel like you’re just waiting to feel. 


Because the thing is, you misplaced your identity. You placed your value in whether or not a guy was pursuing you, how many likes you got, your looks, what you’re studying in school, your job, your home, your clothes, your achievements.


You placed your value in everywhere but the one place that would keep you rooted…in the one place that will never forsake you. The arms of God. 


1 Peter 2:9 says, “But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.”


Believe it or not, you are called to walk according to your royal identity as a daughter of God in your everyday life. Here are 3 life-changing steps to redefining your identity and placing it in Christ. 


To read more on how to find your identity in Christ, click “read more” and/or watch the video above for a more interactive experience!


First things first, how can we define identity? And what is an identity in Christ?


Your identity is who you are. It’s how you view yourself and in some circles, it’s how the world may view you. Your identity speaks to the characteristics that define you. 


It is important to get to know yourself by exploring activities, spending time alone and cultivating relationships. However, these will only provide you the extensions of yourself. 


But when you begin with Christ, you find your core. Indeed, He is the truest way to discovering and embracing who you are. He is the only way to living out our lives in true freedom and being who He has called us to be. 

What It Means To Put Your Identity in Christ:


2 Corinthians 5:17 tells us, “anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”


We need to become new people because we are all sinners in desperate need of a Savior. When you don’t have Jesus, there is no distinction between who you are and the rest of the world. We are all His creation, yes, but we become His children when we accept Christ into our hearts. 


When we accept Jesus, He changes our identities from “in the world,” to “out of it.” He changes our identities by taking off the names the world calls us and instead, calling us His very own. 


Tip 1 for Finding Your Identity in Christ: Stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you.


Rejecting worldly behaviors and customs is imperative in embracing your true identity in Christ. 


Romans 12:2 tells us, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.


If you’re not careful, you can easily become so accustomed to the world that you merge without even realizing it. However, when we fix our gaze on God, the Holy Spirit can transform us from the inside out. We must look to God to develop us into the best versions of ourselves. He shows us how we can use the things of this world to further His Kingdom. He shows us how we can impact the world for His glory. 


I can understand how it may be difficult to forge your own path but remember God goes before you. He is guiding you by the hand out of following the crowd. I have confidence that you can be in the world and not of it because Christ is in you. 


1 John 4:4 says, “But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world.”


The enemy will do whatever it takes for you to doubt your value, to question God’s love and goodness. He blinds people. He tricks people but he’s not creative. He uses the same tricks. He knows if you chase after things of this world, you will gain everything but lose your salvation. 


Satan isn’t scared of the One who’s in you. You will experience many troubles but take heart because Christ has overcome the world! You can live fearless because of this.


Tip 2 for Finding Your Identity in Christ: Remember what God says about you.


In my book, Claim Your Crown, I declare, “society’s mirror is poison but God calls you poetry.”


When we depend on what society deems acceptable and praise-worthy, it will be a never-ending chase of attaining. We will never be satisfied and we will lose sleep chasing things that aren’t meant to be tied down. We will be poisoned in our pursuit when God called us poetry from before we were even created!


Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.”


Trends are temporary. What’s in one second is out the next. Nothing lasts forever except for the word of God and nothing is as powerful.  


And do you know some of the powerful things He said about you? He created you with intention. He made no mistake the first time. There is nothing about you that needs to be changed. 


Psalm 139:14 says, “I will give thanks to you, for I am awesomely and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and my soul knows that very well.” He wants you to declare that over your life. 


You have God’s approval – you don’t need the world’s.


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Tip 3 for Finding Your Identity in Christ: Rely on who God is. 


When we rely on who God is, we can simultaneously embrace our flaws and imperfections.  

We better understand our limitations and commit them to God. 


You were created beautifully, yes. But that’s not all there is to it. We are constantly being perfected in Christ and in our weakness, He is strong. 


2 Corinthians 12:9-10 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.


In understanding the nature of God, He reveals the nature of you. In relying on who He is, you will explore unimaginable depths. He will empower you to walk in your royal authority and yes, you will have the ability to do all things in Christ but you can only so if He’s not living in you. 


He can only be made strong when He is actually living in you.


People always say i can do all things in christ but you can’t if He’s not in you.




Galatians 2:19-21 is the absolute best way to conclude! 


The MSG version says, “What actually took place is this: I tried keeping rules and working my head off to please God, and it didn’t work. So I quit being a “law [wo]man” so that I could be a woman of God. Christ’s life showed me how, and enabled me to do it. I identified myself completely with him. Indeed, I have been crucified with Christ. My ego is no longer central. It is no longer important that I appear righteous before you or have your good opinion, and I am no longer driven to impress God. Christ lives in me. The life you see me living is not “mine,” but it is lived by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. I am not going to go back on that.”


You begin a new life when Jesus enters your heart. Galatians 2:20 explains your old self has been crucified with Christ and because of this, your world is centered around yourself because Christ – the one who loves you and gave himself for you– lives in you. 


Do you see the importance of how finding your identity in Christ begins with accepting Christ? He will empower you to walk in your royal authority with worth and purpose. In your willingness to serve Him, we will lead you into rejecting worldly behaviors and customs, remembering what He says about you, and relying on who He is. 


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If you are ready to walk in the authority and worth of royal identity, you can purchase my new book, Claim Your Crown, as your personal guide! The free devotional is available on the YouVersion Bible app with over 75,000 completions around the globe. I also have numerous resources available such as free printables and the royal confidence series on YouTube!


October 19, 2020

  1. Erica says:

    This was a beautifully written article. I have a personality disorder, and this spoke to me on so many levels. Thank you for listening to God’s Word and writing this <3

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