Hey guys, it’s Medge!
And I’m here this time to express with you how…recently, I have been disrespected more often than I’d like.
Yes, the disrespect!
I know that it’s all a test to see how I will react. Am I the same old tell-it-how-it-is Medge or have I turned a new leaf?
It was once super easy to deliver truth with all the sharpness it might have. I don’t sugarcoat — everything just is or it isn’t. I was able to deflect the disrespect and store up the way I truly felt by getting straight to the point.
As of late though, I have found myself questioning what I once viewed as normal: my habits, how I react, and the decisions I make. And as I’m changing, the things that are “exactly as they were” point out a glaring truth — I need a set of boundaries, a golden rule.
It was always hard for me to understand why the love that I gave was fully embraced, yet also prone to be taken advantage of by those very people. While treating people the same way they treated me was second nature at one point, I can’t allow it to be that way today. I’m not the same person anymore.
Taking a very much needed break from school, I went home and finally had time to reflect on this. Sunday, my pastor spoke on the “golden rule” which focuses on true love and positive, active behavior. The scripture was on Matthew 7:12, “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.” That should be the golden rule.
As much as you love yourself, when someone hurts you, recognize how you would want to be treated vice versa. We crave the action/proof of love. The role switch is not easy. Some days, the golden rule will suck because while you might be giving the love and positivity: it’s not guaranteed that you will get it back.
“Truths and roses have thorns to them” is a quote I remind myself with when I realize that the love I give doesnt come back in full. The truth is, it hurts when what you would blindly do for someone isn’t guaranteed or acknowledged. Disrespect will come when you see others doing to you what you wouldn’t do to them.
People may not have the same heart as you and instead of getting righteous about it, just accept it! React accordingly and don’t treat them any differently from what you would want.
People may not have the same heart as you. Instead of getting righteous, just accept it! Click To Tweet
You control the way you feel. Get wiser, see the way things actually are no matter how hard it is. Golden rule: don’t ever play yourself!
Golden rule: don't ever play yourself! Click To Tweet
The most amazing thing about seeking love is that God literally overflows with it in pure abundance (way more than we think or deserve)!
You don’t need the applause and sometimes you won’t get a thank you but you are never alone in feeling under-appreciated. On top of that, you have someone who will forever make you feel more than enough.
Some have a jaded view on love and relationships but that’s them . Don’t let the world turn your heart cold. We can’t change people — they owe us nothing! Getting hurt sucks and being disrespected? Even worse. Take a breath, access and adjust: you know what’s worth it.
So how should you handle taking disrespect?
Quite simply, by showing grace.
This by no means, shape or form says that your emotions aren’t validated or warranted! It also doesn’t call for you to be a door mat. It’s the effective, genuine and assertive way to let people know how you feel so it won’t happen again. But that’s a convo for another time 😉
Continue to be the light you were called to be. Stay golden.