Knowing When to Give Up


A few weeks ago, I was basically begging designers to allow me to come to their shows for NYFW. I didn’t get not one reply (maybe it’s because I forgot to send in my resume…whoops).

But anyway, I was desperate…I wanted to go so bad. I had vowed to myself that I was going but there was evidence everywhere that I would not be. Then guess what? I got the most random notification from a beautiful young lady I now consider my mentor; she asked me if I would like to cover some shows for her!!! I screamed. And I do not scream, guys. But that time? I so did.

Like…what? That was all God. I didn’t even have to do anything! She told me she loved my work ethic, my style and my blog and figured I would suit the job perfectly.

Knowing when to give up? The fact is…

You don’t.

Be relentless and passionate at completing your task as hand, even if it might not interest you.

I began this post on a sad note. I checked myself like, “Wait, why do I sound like this?!”

A week and few days ago, I submitted a quick “About Me” video for my Fundamentals to Video Production class. I mentioned about how my blog got shortlisted for Cosmopolitan UK “Best International Fashion Blog w/ Independent Fashion Bloggers”. He stopped the video and replayed the part twice and then asked, “What?” The class congratulated me and asked why I wasn’t boasting about it. My professor asked about who knew about me being shortlisted. I simply replied with “my friends, my readers, and my professor because I began the blog in her class.” He replied with, “So the University doesn’t know about this? When’s the event?” I told him that the Blog Awards was October 7th (it was two whole weeks away when I told him) and that I didn’t even think to tell the school because my blog is something outside of school and I simply didn’t even consider it. Then he said, “SO?! We love things like that! We would broadcast you everywhere! If you told us earlier, I’m sure they would’ve helped provide you with funds.”

Intrigued, I talked to him after class. I knew it was pretty last minute but I figured I could at least give it a try. And, guess what? They wanted to help! I talked to the dean department, I talked to presidents, I talked to advisors. I emailed everyone I had to and even went the extra mile to find out how much I would need to the penny!

Although many faculty were trying to assist, it wasn’t enough. They told me I would have to do a proposal for the Student Government Finance board for the rest of the money. So, I did. My close friends, Malissa and Tina, were up with me til 5 in the morning finding flights and hotels to London. We created Excel spreadsheets and I printed out the invitation and potential things I would have to spend money on.

This morning, I submitted the form. Turns out, although the application didn’t say I couldn’t apply for spontaneous funding as as an independent, I needed some very important signatures on behalf of a club. I’ve been running around all morning, tense. “Only with Your help”, I kept saying in my mind.

Then I remembered I was a part of my school’s new advertising and media club! Duh. I’m their web historian and official blogger. Now, I have about 30 minutes to meet with someone to get their signature and submit again so that the board would see me Wednesday for my proposal.

My stomach is churning. My mind is at track meet. My fingers, wringing.

“Only with Your help”.

You know, instead of sleeping in and devoting my whole day to homework yesterday, I went to church. What’s caraaazy is that the sermon was about this. The pastor preached about becoming “finishers, not just starters”. He preached about how our human efforts can only amount to so much. He preached that we can say we want to do this or that but it’s a whole lot of work to bring about completion. Instead of relying on yourself, you must realize that you’re not getting to where you want to be because your Compass isn’t even on your journey with you.

I’m in a situation where I have done all that I can and have to rely on God to do His part. It’s so hard because as humans, the easiest thing to do is to depend on ourselves. Sometimes…scratch that, all the time, it can do a great deal to speak life (meaning encouragement) to not just others but yourself. Yes, I said yourself!


IMG_2888Hey Adorners,

Long time no talk, huh? I’m sorry, I said I would do better – didn’t I? I sooo will. Let me at least just have this week to get my act together!

As you all know, it’s my junior year here at Rider University and I’m taking 6 classes (18 credits)! I really take school seriously (of course, I love you all, too) but I just need to really get into the swing of things. I took 6 classes last semester and was completely fine – and, I mean fine as in, I got all A’s! This semester, it’s been so hard even remembering which class comes when and where they actually are. I feel like a freshman. Was summer really that long?!

But anyway, enough about school.

How are you guys? I just had the sudden urge to reach out to you all and figure out what you’ve all been up to or simply how you’ve been feeling emotionally! So tell me. Seriously, I want to know.

How am I? Although I’ve got so much going on, I feel at peace. It’s weird…feeling serene in the midst of chaos.

I also just had to let you know that “Adorned in Armor” turned 1 on September 17th! I was so excited; I literally consider this blog my baby! You’re probably thinking “some baby…You neglected it for over a week!” Oh, you’re not? Thank you for being so understanding, you sweet people, you!

I’m working on doing a Blogaversary giveaway soon. I honestly just don’t know what to…give away. Just be patient with me! (Oh, and let me just say that “blogaversary” should totally be an official word. It’s getting annoying seeing the red squiggly line under my text!)

It’s been an amazing ride. In just one year, I got shortlisted by Cosmopolitan UK for their Blog Awards, was able to partake in Fashion Week, did the Essence magazine event, and reached many personal blogging advances. I never truly reflected on all this until now. I am truly grateful for what God has blessed me with. Just being recognized by you all – who I started out with – gives me so much hope for the future of this blog. Let’s see what year 2 holds!!! Thanks for being so loyal! We’ve come a long way and we’re going even further; I claim it in the name of Jesus…oh yes, I do :)

IFB – 22nd Featured Post! “Dear Seventeen”



Now that fashion month has kicked off, one of the things that we’ll be thinking as the new season hits the runways is, “Is it wearable?” Well, not just the runways, in technology too. The “Internet of Things” gives us some interesting accessories to incorporate into our look. And just in time too… with school back in session, what better way to accessorize, than with things that make you smarter?

Links à la Mode: September 4th

SPONSOR: Shopbop BWGH, Smith+Mara, Joy Gryson, Jansport, DL1961, CSBLA, Doma, Spiewak, Kacey K, Melinda Gloss & Muttonhead

21st Feature on IFB :)


Last Weekend

Labor Day marks the last day of “Summer” even if it’s actually September 21st… but who’s counting? Oh yeah, EVERYONE! Fashion Month kicks off next week, so everyone get your rest. Get everything you need to be done for regular life done this weekend if you can, because we’ll all be glued to the runways for the next month. So now is the time to muse about life and style, to stock up on your Fall wardrobe, and catch up on your magazines… don’t know where to start? These links will help!

Links à la Mode: August 28th

SPONSOR: Shopbop Soulland, Ryder, R&B Standard Issue, Arpenteur, Officine Generale, MCM Bags, White + OHW?, Spiewak, KSNY Bags, Smith+Mara & 360 Sweater

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400+ Subbies & a Surprise!

blogger balloonsJust a quick update!

I’ve recently reached well over 400 subscribers (443, to be exact)! Thanks for always being so supportive and responsive to my blog, Adorners! My goal was to make 500 by the end of the summer but hey, I know I’ll make it someway, somehow. I just have to be patient and consistent – those are definitely two things my blog is teaching me to be. 

I’ve been meaning to ask you guys, though: Do you count your Bloglovin followers in the count as well? I really want to know!

OH YEAH! I have big news and I can’t wait to share! Stay tuned. 

Welcome to Adorned in Armor, new subbies! I look forward to interacting with you soon :) If you want to keep up, please follow my Instagram, Twitter & Bloglovin :)

One last thing: “Adorned in Armor” has been shortlisted by Cosmopolitan UK as the “Best International Fashion Blog”! Those shortlisted meet in London for the grand blogger event, meet new bloggers, be treated to goodies and discover who wins! Please please vote for my blog to win in Category 5 here. Thank you!!!

Clothes: to Sell, or to Donate?


I am not a hoarder.

As I outgrew my clothes and my style evolutionized, I gave them away.  Yup, year by year. Sometimes even seasonally. I honestly don’t even know how my clothes accumulated – I barely shop! (No, seriously, it’s true). 

I have 2 younger sisters so of course, I would ask them which items they wanted out of my closet before I handed them over to my mother to donate. For hours, I would dig and dig and dig. Dig through my closets, my dressers, my bins. It usually took 2 hours or 3 since I would usually get lazy and sit back amongst the piles of clothes, wondering how in the heck I would categorize them and all that. 

Recently, I went thrifting. I didn’t know that it (meaning, thrifting) existed until my senior year of high school. Yup, 2012. And I had an amazing experience. Of course I heard of Goodwill and Salvation Army but honestly, dumb little me thought it was for the poor. I mean, that’s what it used to be for… right?

But anyway, I went thrifting and after I made my purchases (I had some great finds, I must say), I discovered that selling clothes to thrift stores was an option! I also learned that fact in 2012 lol but it just rang brand new to me yesterday. Maybe it’s because I’m always looking for ways to make money these days, who knows.The pretty blonde next to me with the huge sack of clothes inspired me. I would go home and find some items to sell. So, I did. 

My room looked h o r r e n d o u s. No, seriously. Apparel was spewed everywhere. I was the tornado wreaking havoc and my clothes stood no chance against me. As I was “packing”, my mother came by and asked what I was doing. I replied with a simple, “selling my clothes”. She chuckled and actually let me be. Surprised, I continued with my duties for a few more hours. Satisfied with what I rummaged up, I went to my family, asking if they too had items they wanted to sell. My youngest sister, Shermine, came to me with two items she didn’t want anymore: a winter vest and a never worn before collared shirt. My mom witnessed the exchange and immediately told me I would not be giving the items away. Without hesitation, I gave her Shermine’s shirt. I held onto the vest, though. It was a hand me down of mine and I figured it wouldn’t be that big of a deal because I mean…it was mine. We didn’t argue over it, guys. She just said that someone in need would love that vest that we were so quick to sell. 

That’s when I knew I had a blog post in the works. Clothes. To sell, or to donate? I was a bit torn. Not about giving up the vest to donate, but because I had to reevaluate if selling my clothes was selfish or not. I tried to rationalize. I’ve been donating my whole entire life. What’s the big whoop with selling them for once? I never considered donating what I had as such a humanitarian action but now I have a medium sized bag in the corner of my room, full with apparel with no direct place to go…yet.

I’m leaning towards selling them, honestly. But here are my questions to you, Adorners: how do you get rid of your clothes? Has donating them been an option? Have you ever wrestled between donating and selling them?

Doing the right thing for others vs doing the right thing for yourself. When I put it that way, it sounds easy, huh?

PS: It’s the last week to vote Adorned in Armor the “Best International Fashion Blog” in Category 5 of the 2014 Cosmo Blog Awards. Please continue to do so here!

Oh & I do not own this photo! I just edited it.

Fashion, A Few Words and All Things Feminine…


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