Welcome to the new Adorned in Armor! Did ya miss me?
I know I missed you all! Your sweet comments and reposts and likes and all that good stuff serve as major motivation to keeping this site of mine up and running, so as I was away, I was all like “what is life?” Haha okay, it was more like, “what is my site?” Throughout the transformation, I took the time to reevaluate its purpose and figuring out ways to bring about my vision. One thing that has remained the same is the authenticity. Me to you and you to me. So thank you for being real and supporting me throughout this journey.
I’ve gone through countless, cultural lessons in light of the 20 years I’ve lived. It’s only right to share. You know, so we’ll all be culturally versed together.
Lesson Number 1: Black people don’t have long hair.
This lesson was first taught to me in no other than the institute of learning. In my elementary years, my classmates challenged the legitimacy of the hair coming from my very own follicles. Because my hair reached past my shoulder blades, it was fake. Duh.
As I grew up, people have always wanted (and even attempted) to touch my roots, checking for extensions. I’m not mixed so all this hair couldn’t possibly be mine.
Lesson Number 2: Black people should hate their hair. Oh, and Black people should perm their hair, too.
As a child, I didn’t like wearing weave because I was afraid people would think I didn’t have any hair. Saddening, huh? But once prom came around, I fell in love with extensions and couldn’t see myself without it anymore. To be beautiful meant to have bundles of hair flowing down my back.
Part two of lesson two:
Due to the fact that our hair is untamable and wild, we must permanently straighten it to look acceptable in society. If we don’t do so, we may miss possible job opportunities that we probably could’ve gotten if our hair was straight.
Lesson Number 3: Darker skin + big hair = more problems.
I’ll never forget my senior year of high school. My sister and I were two of the very few Black people casted in our school’s huge production: 42nd Street. Our excitement was quickly squashed when we noticed we weren’t included in our favorite scene. As we sat out and watch them rehearse, we noticed something. Every girl lightly dancing around in tutus were fair skinned with silky, long tresses. I couldn’t help but tear up at our “misfortune.”
Asides from that scene, along with everyone else, we had to wear wigs. It was easy for the directors to find one for me because I had a perm but it was difficult to find one for my sister because she was natural. Again, yet another problem with us.
Lesson Number 4: “Ethnic hairstyles” on us looks…trashy. (So basically, we should stray away from not just wearing our hair out, but from braids and dreads, too!)
We’ve seen this when Kendall Jenner was accredited for an “epic”, new look: cornrolls. And now we see it with Giuliana Rancic saying that because Zendaya wore dreads, she must have smelled of “patchouli” and “weed.”
Anyone who knows me, knows that I absolutely, positively love Zendaya. She’s a poised, stylish and reputable young woman. And so her response to Giuliana Rancic made me adore her even more. It moved me to the point where I had to create this post, to shed light on the expectations America has on African-Americans.
Lesson Number 5: Black people, America says: “Contrary to your belief and India Arie, you are your hair…and you are your skin, too.”
When you consider hair, you consider color. We deal with the color of our skin, and within the color, we deal with the shade. We deal with the texture and we deal with the length of our hair. Our hair represents who we are to society, as stereotypical and racial it may be.
I do not consider Giuliana Rancic a racist. That comment was ignorant, yes. And we will hear a lot more of degrading remarks in this life, but do not confuse racism with ignorance and do not allow negativity to cause you to seep low with ignorant comments of your own. Handle with regality, with grace, with poise.
Heck, handle it like Zendaya.
* Photo Credit: Adriana M. Barraza/WENN.com
Hey, hi, hellooooo! I received so much feedback from my last WSP recap, that I figured I should post some more experiences with you all! I think I’ll be doing these every two weeks – I would say once a week but honestly, sometimes I just…don’t wanna! haha But anyway, where to begin?
Oh yes, Monday.
I love love! So whenever Valentine’s Day comes around, I can’t help but wear the typical pinks, reds, and purples and be in a gushy, giddy mood. Even when I was single, I was never a VDay hater lol maybe it was my upbringing in my faith. No, not maybe – definitely! I’m surrounded by love daily and I’m constantly reminded of the Ultimate Love of all: sweet sweet Jesus! Get it? Sweet? (Yes, I chuckle at my own jokes.)
I traveled back to Jersey to celebrate the holiday with my hunay. It was a long bus ride (about 4.5 hours) but it was soooo worth it. I haven’t seen Paul in over a month! *cues tears* It felt surreal to be not just with him, but my family. I missed them so much!
On to the good stuff. I spent the first half of my VDay with my mom. The quality time was much needed and we appreciated each other’s company (I’m a momma’s girl, guys.)
The second half of my day was spent with Paul! I had no clue what he was planning until we reached the stables. Yup, he surprised me with a horseback lesson!!! Mind you, he didn’t know I used to collect figurines of horses as a child. The experience … took my breath away. Both, literally and figuratively.
I guess now’s the part where I tell you about what I’m wearing, right? All ASOS errthang!!! Haha no seriously, everything is. Except for my pants. They’re from The Gap. If you guys don’t realize, the “shirt” I’m wearing is actually the dress I wore for my birthday! I folded it up and voila.
It doesn’t matter that it’s two days after Vday, Happy Valentine’s Day, Adorners! And if you haven’t heard it lately, I love you all 😉
* Photography by my good friend Domonique Boss! Thank you, girly!
Hey guys! I just thought of an idea.
You wanna know who are under appreciated? STYLISTS. It’s rare for a stylist to receive much recognition by the public for a job well done. Then again, it is rewarding having a job you adore doing (see what I did there? Yes?). However, in an effort to give credit to the stylists that work so hard, I’ve began a segment here on adornedinarmor called, “Who Adorns Her?”
“Who Adorns Her” will feature my favorite celebrities styles and the revealing of the masterminds behind their style of dress. First up? The ultimately beautiful Zendaya Coleman.
*clears throat* Hi, my name is Tarah-Lynn Saint-Elien and I’m a blogaholic. (This is the part where you say hi back and tell me what you’re in for.)
No, but seriously, I have issues.
Source: eliasmakeup.com via trendland
In my Literary History class, we had to choose a work to write a research paper about. My professor was going down the list, briefly explaining the poems and essays. I heard one that piqued my interest and was SO excited. Nerd alert? Maybe. But, who cares?