Do you hear wedding bells? Well, of course you do. It’s summer season and so here comes the topic of …white.
I love white.
I have a white phone, white accessories…hey, I even wear white after Labor Day. It may be a fashion don’t to you, but a fashion-who-cares to me! I was brought to an article on Lover.ly titled: The Great Debate: Is It Ever OK to Wear White to a Wedding? And everyone was divided. My response? HECKS NO.
Those in defense of wearing white:
Loverly Editor, Alexia said, “Of course, it’s never OK to take away from the bride’s big day! But according to etiquette guru Emily Post, the traditional rules of a guest not wearing white (or black for that matter) no longer apply. Post says a guest may wear white to a wedding with caution. In my opinion, a guest shouldn’t wear any outfit that directly resembles the bride’s wedding gown…As long as a guest opts for a cream or nude-colored dress, it’s totally acceptable. It’s also important to keep fabric and cut in mind! Choose a white cotton dress rather than a silk, tulle, or lace dress. Go for a short, playful dress or pantsuit rather than an elegant floor-length gown. Make sure that your accessories don’t scream bridal either. Instead of a strand of pearls and a fascinator, wear a colorful necklace or shoes!”
Okay, Alexia. I see where you’re going with this. I agreed with everything up to where you said that a guest could wear a white cotton
dress. To me, it doesn’t matter what fabric you wear, if you’re not the one in the wedding dress,
then don’t wear white to a wedding… ever.
Loverly Editorial Director, Rachel argues, “While I don’t think you should wear white to a wedding (don’t you have anything else to wear?), you can probably get away with wearing a white dress with a colorful print on it. But definitely steer clear of any dress that’s all white or ivory or that looks decidedly bridal. (Ask yourself: would you wear this white getup to your own wedding shower? If yes, then it’s too bridal.)”
My response: Rachel, YES. There are several colors in the rainbow and colors between those colors. Why white? And about wearing a white dress with colorful print… that print better overtake the whole dress haha. White should be peeking.
Brenda from Facebook said, “I don’t see anything wrong with wearing white to a summer wedding. Everybody knows who the bride is!”
My response: Let’s not even begin any smidget of confusion. Yes, yes. We know who the bride is but like, what if the caterer or photographer I don’t know…forgot? Embarassing right? I’m just one that thinks of multiple possibilities and I strictly believe that the person trying to wear white should recognize that she isn’t the one getting married that day. The white can w a i t.
Kathy says: “It all depends on the faith, culture, and traditions of the couple. If they’re old-fashioned, then no. With today’s brides, sometimes anything goes. So then, yes, white is okay!”
Jeni responded: “My bridesmaids wore white, it was stunning!”
My response: True, Kathy. If you are the bride and deem it okay for guests to wear white, then by all means do what the bride requests. Regardless of how modern today is, guests, please don’t try to were white on your own terms. And, everyone! Take note that the keyword for Jeni is: “my”. What the bride wants, she gets. All in all, you only wear white with permission from the bride.
Those against wearing white:
Loverly Editor, Jess, proudly claims the name “captain of team no” and explains, “While some etiquette experts are changing their tune on this one, I say, don’t be that guest who shows up in white and gets the crowd talking (and chances upsetting the happy couple). Wearing white is often very special to brides who choose to follow the tradition, so just give them their chance to shine. After all, there are a lot of other colors out there…”
CEO of Loverly, Kellee: “I say no! Unless the bride is wearing a colored gown.”
My response: And here is where I disagree, Kellee. If the bride is wearing color, doesn’t mean you can be colorless.
Loverly Designer, Jaclyn argued: “It totally depends on the bride, but I’d never wear white to a wedding. The event is the most important day of the bride’s life and I’d never want to wear anything that could outshine or take away from their special day. Out of respect, I’d steer clear of anything that could upset them on their day.”
My response: Omg, Jaclyn…I love you. You get me. You truly do. It shows the utmost respect when you consider how important the day is to the bride when finding what to wear to their wedding.
I asked my best friend, Claire, what she would do if I wore white to her wedding. She promptly replied to my text with “Ban you from church and reception hall” and I honestly deem that a just punishment. Of course, that won’t happen because I’ll be the one in her wedding and all but still.
Here’s my final say. Wear white to my wedding and get white OUT.
What do you think Adorners? Would you wear white to someone’s wedding? What would you do if someone wore white to your wedding?
Disclaimer: Photo from the movie “Bride Wars”